Things Parents Should Never Say To Kids

Who said being a parent was easy? It's the most difficult phase of your life, running behind your kids, making them understand what you want to communicate and finally getting the message through. Losing your temper is quite a normal scenario. Though you wish otherwise, there would be circumstances where you lose your temper and say just the things that you would have otherwise avoided. It's a momentary anger but it makes a complete mess of matters that could have been sorted out easily.

You have a kid who is behaving badly, who you know can handle things a bit more maturely and probably who can behave his age. Yes, you are right about it all especially when you are thinking of things as an adult. But, look at it from the kid's perspective and you would immediately realize that he is not born to understand everything, every single aspect of life or give his emotions a back stage almost immediately in his life.

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He takes time to understand, to feel what you are saying. Using the wrong words to communicate what you feel can cause major troubles. There could be instances when your kid may feel really hurt by what you said. There are a few things that you should avoid even when you are terribly angry.

Comparing With Others
"See that child on your left, how well behaved he is" or "see your sister, she eats so well, why can't you do the same?" Like how two parents can't be the same, two kids can't be the same either. Try to keep that in mind. Comparing will bring in an inferiority complex in them. They might be hurt about it. Instead, be rational, understand how they feel and let them take their own sweet time to get a hang of things. Avoid comparing with other kids and treat your child as an individual with distinct likes and dislikes.

Say Full Sentences
You may want to tell your kid that as lunch is only half an hour away, you don't think he/she should fill his/her stomach with goodies. But, what you actually say is "you cannot have those goodies" and what your kid probably understands is: "I am never going to get goodies." This can give the wrong impression to your kid and make them crib. Say what you actually want to, leaving nothing to imagination.

Don't Discourage
"You can do better," is something that all parents tell their kids. That's one statement you can avoid and should ideally avoid. Kids, unlike adults, tend to take things to their heart. Make sure you say something encouraging as "you can do better" sounds discouraging. Make sure you appreciate the efforts put in. That way they can feel better about their work. It's understandable that you want them to perform but, by saying this statement you are not giving them any encouragement.

"You are good for nothing"
You are angry and you scream out "you are good for nothing" or worse still "you will never do anything in your whole life". This is something parents should never tell their kids. This could prove to be negative to your child. He/she would feel discouraged, would start believing in what you say and lap it up completely. You don't want that to happen. So, the best would be to avoid these lines, however angry you are.

"I told you so"
Another thing that parents should never say to their kids is the classic, "I told you so." How we, even today, hate this line when it is said to us! We burn into a ball of fire whenever someone comes and says this to us when we make a mistake. Do we want to repeat that mistake? Do you want to say the something to your son/daughter that'll only make them feel worse? It could have a completely negative effect on them and they might feel horrible you said that.

Parents need to be a bit more careful when dealing with children, especially teens as they have a habit of feeling hurt at small matters. Remember, it's their age and as parents, it's best to figure out a way to make them understand things without hurting their fragile minds.